Author August 2011

jennifer_brozek

Jennifer Brozek

Other People's Stories


talkstowolves

Full Metal Geekery - Episode 01: Iron Man Lives Again



Iron Man lives again! And so does this podcast!

Welcome back, my faithful friends! When last we met, Andy and I promised you that a podcast crowing about The Avengers would be up "in a few days." Oops. In our defense, Loki destroyed that recording: the file was corrupted and, believe me, that was DEVASTATING. It was such a good time! Loki, you're such an asshole (love you anyway!).

Other things happened too. But we're back, and with at least one of the Avengers to boot! Behold, our episode on Iron Man 3:

[You'll have to listen at the post proper, as my audio player doesn't work here.]

Download is available. Runtime is 41:11. It should be up on iTunes at any moment.

Things you should know: THIS PODCAST IS FULL OF SPOILERS. No, seriously. Don't listen until you've seen Iron Man 3, unless you like listening to people ramble in random detail about unfamiliar franchises. If that's your thing, go on with your bad self. Also, we have cats AND THEY TOTALLY CRASHED THIS PODCAST. Because cats, much like Loki, are assholes.

Right, I think that's it. Enjoy!

(And review! And tweet! And chat with us about the podcast! We're garrulous geeks, as you may have noticed.)

Note: Thanks, as always, are owed to Jonathan Coulton, whose generous adherence to Creative Commons allowed us to use the first few seconds of his “Sucker Punch” as interlude music. If you’d like to hear and purchase the rest of the song, check it out at over at his site.

jerwine

The Alban Lake Bookstore

The Alban Lake Bookstore is now open. This store features all of the new titles from Alban Lake Publishing, and it also features much of the backlist from Sam's Dot Publishing, and it features many of the new and backlist titles from Nomadic Delirium Press. This means that the store has a lot of my books. Here are some links for you:
A Problem in Translation
Red Moon Rising
The Opium of the People
Seedlings on the Solar Winds
Marionettes on the Moon
The Ephemeris Science Fiction Role Playing Game
The Battle for Turtle Island: Buffalo Wars Role Playing Game

scalzifeed

Nebula Award Winners!

http://whatever.scalzi.com/2013/05/19/nebula-award-winners-2/

http://whatever.scalzi.com/?p=21885

The winners are in bold. Also noted: The Norton and Bradbury awards, as well as the Solstice and the Kevin J. O’Donnell Service to SFWA Award.

Novel:

  • 2312, Kim Stanley Robinson (Orbit US; Orbit UK)
  • Throne of the Crescent Moon, Saladin Ahmed (DAW; Gollancz ’13)
  • Ironskin, Tina Connolly (Tor)
  • The Killing Moon, N.K. Jemisin (Orbit US; Orbit UK)
  • The Drowning Girl, Caitlín R. Kiernan (Roc)
  • Glamour in Glass, Mary Robinette Kowal (Tor)

Novella:

  • After the Fall, Before the Fall, During the Fall, Nancy Kress (Tachyon)
  • On a Red Station, Drifting, Aliette de Bodard (Immersion Press)
  • “The Stars Do Not Lie,” Jay Lake (Asimov’s 10-11/12)
  • “All the Flavors,” Ken Liu (GigaNotoSaurus 2/1/12)
  • “Katabasis,” Robert Reed (F&SF 11-12/12)
  • “Barry’s Tale,” Lawrence M. Schoen (Buffalito Buffet)

Novelette:

  • “Close Encounters,” Andy Duncan (The Pottawatomie Giant & Other Stories)
  • “The Pyre of New Day,” Catherine Asaro (The Mammoth Books of SF Wars)
  • “The Waves,” Ken Liu (Asimov’s 12/12)
  • “The Finite Canvas,” Brit Mandelo (Tor.com 12/5/12)
  • “Swift, Brutal Retaliation,” Meghan McCarron (Tor.com 1/4/12)
  • “Portrait of Lisane da Patagnia,” Rachel Swirsky (Tor.com 8/22/12)
  • “Fade to White,” Catherynne M. Valente (Clarkesworld 8/12)

Short Story:

  • “Immersion,” Aliette de Bodard (Clarkesworld 6/12)
  • “Robot,” Helena Bell (Clarkesworld 9/12)
  • “Fragmentation, or Ten Thousand Goodbyes,” Tom Crosshill (Clarkesworld 4/12)
  • “Nanny’s Day,” Leah Cypess (Asimov’s 3/12)
  • “Give Her Honey When You Hear Her Scream,” Maria Dahvana Headley (Lightspeed 7/12)
  • “The Bookmaking Habits of Select Species,” Ken Liu (Lightspeed8/12)
  • “Five Ways to Fall in Love on Planet Porcelain,” Cat Rambo (Near + Far)

Ray Bradbury Award for Outstanding Dramatic Presentation

  • Beasts of the Southern Wild, Benh Zeitlin (director), Benh Zeitlin and Lucy Abilar (writers), (Journeyman/Cinereach/Court 13/Fox Searchlight)
  • The Avengers, Joss Whedon (director) and Joss Whedon and Zak Penn (writers), (Marvel/Disney)
  • The Cabin in the Woods, Drew Goddard (director), Joss Whedon and Drew Goddard (writers) (Mutant Enemy/Lionsgate)
  • The Hunger Games, Gary Ross (director), Gary Ross, Suzanne Collins, and Billy Ray (writers), (Lionsgate)
  • John Carter, Andrew Stanton (director), Michael Chabon, Mark Andrews, and Andrew Stanton (writers), (Disney)
  • Looper, Rian Johnson (director), Rian Johnson (writer), (FilmDistrict/TriStar)

Andre Norton Award for Young Adult Science Fiction and Fantasy Book

  • Fair Coin, E.C. Myers (Pyr)
  • Iron Hearted Violet, Kelly Barnhill (Little, Brown)
  • Black Heart, Holly Black (McElderry; Gollancz)
  • Above, Leah Bobet (Levine)
  • The Diviners, Libba Bray (Little, Brown; Atom)
  • Vessel, Sarah Beth Durst (S&S/McElderry)
  • Seraphina, Rachel Hartman (Random House; Doubleday UK)
  • Enchanted, Alethea Kontis (Harcourt)
  • Every Day, David Levithan (Knopf)
  • Summer of the Mariposas, Guadalupe Garcia McCall (Tu Books)
  • Railsea, China Miéville (Del Rey; Macmillan)
  • Above World, Jenn Reese (Candlewick)

Solstice Awards were awarded to editor Ginjer Buchanan and astronomer and entertainer Carl Sagan, the latter of which was accepted by his son Nick Sagan.

The Kevin O’Donnell Jr. Service Award was awarded to Michael Payne.

(The list above borrowed from this Tor.com posting. You may also see results on SFWA’s own site.)

Also, of course, we formally invested Gene Wolfe with the title of Grand Master. He was gracious and touching in his speech, which is of course no surprise at all.

I am delighted to say that my final Nebula Award ceremony as president went along swimmingly, with Robert Silverberg as our emcee. I got to introduced Bob and give him some good-natured ribbing; he got up and dropped a house on me, which may go down as one of the highlights of my time as SFWA President. If you ever get a chance to get zinged by Grand Master Silverberg, I highly recommend it.

Congratulations to the winners, commiserations to the other most worthy nominees, and many thanks to the volunteers and other who made the Nebula Ceremony, and indeed the entire Nebula Weekend, possible. It was a great time. As a fan, I was thrilled. As the President of SFWA, I was relieved.



richgreen01

Success!

In last night's 4e D&D game we managed to fit in two big combats, some roleplaying and some exploration. This is unusual for us - we often struggle to get through two encounters in an evening session. Using the escalation dice from 13th Age speeds up combat, but I think we saved a fair bit of time because I drew the two main encounter areas before the game on battle mats. They also looked a lot better than my usual scrappy drawing under pressure. Obviously this only works if you know the encounters are going to happen, but in this case I did.

Tags: , ,

jaylake

[travel] Off to Rio Hondo

Up very early on quite short sleep to fly from SJC to LAX to ABQ, then vehiculate to Taos via Santa Fe. We'll see Lisa Costello on our way through Santa Fe for appetizers or dinner, depending on the timing. I'll be all day door to door.

And I'll be all week in writer paradise.


jaylake

[conventions|photos] My day two of the Nebula Awards Weekend

Yesterday was my second and final day at the Nebula Awards weekend. Not to bury the lede, the award in my ballot category of Best Novella went to the excellent Nancy Kress for After the Fall, Before the Fall, During the Fall.

My parents and [info]the_child were there, along with my Aunt B— and Uncle L— from Texas.

IMG_3409
Dad and Mom

IMG_3411
Jersey Girl, Dad, Me, Mom

There was a comic convention going on next door, so some crossover happened.

IMG_3402
These are not the SF writers you are looking for

Still we had fun.

IMG_3398
Me and Jersey Girl, who'd never attended an SF event before

And though I did not win, I got to give away the Best Short Story Nebula to a charmingly shocked Aliette de Bodard.

IMG_3418

IMG_3421

I'll post more later about the emotional experience of this weekend, and how it has intersected with my illness. For now, suffice to say I had an amazingly good time. My family was pretty happy to be there. My thanks to chair Dave Gallaher, SFWA President John Scalzi, and everyone who worked so hard to make this all come together as fantastically well as it did.




Photos © 2013 N. Schaadt and others. All rights reserved, reproduced with permission. As usual, more at the Flickr set.


jaylake

[photos] Your Sunday moment of zen

Your Sunday moment of zen.

IMG_2999.JPG

Test tank exterior at Hanford Site, 2008. Photo © 2008, 2013, Joseph E. Lake, Jr.

Creative Commons License

This work by Joseph E. Lake, Jr. is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-Share Alike 3.0 United States License.

Tags: ,

jaylake

[links] Link salad wanders off to New Mexico

A Mind Is a Terrible Thing to Taste — Me and John Scalzi.

Mark Twain Captured on Film by Thomas Edison in 1909. It’s the Only Known Footage of the Author. — Oh, wow. (Thanks to [info]scarlettina.)

How the Mighty Winds of Uranus and Neptune Blow — Uhh...

Earth's Richat Structure — Oh. this is cool. Geology from space.

Has Justin Bieber Abandoned His Monkey?

Up to 1 in 5 children suffer from mental disorder: CDC — Sigh.

In the Box: A Tour Through the Simulated Battlefields of the U.S. National Training Center

Climate Change Denial is Costing us Trillions, Threatening Farming, Fishing, Animals (Video) — Rush Limbaugh and the GOP keep us better informed than any of those liberal "facts" and "data" possibly could.

Colorado GOPer Accused Of Storming Away From Aurora Victim’s Dad — Conservative policies have ugly, ugly consequences. Republican support for widespread private gun ownership with minimal responsibility or accountability kills 30,000 American adults and children every year. Running away from that doesn't change anything, it just confirms once again the moral and political cowardice inextricably interwoven with the pro-gun position.

QotD?: Ever been to New Mexico?




5/19/2013
Writing time yesterday: 0.0 hours (con time)
Hours slept: 4.25 hours (fitful, yikes!!!)
Body movement: n/a
Weight: n/a
Number of FEMA troops on my block covering up evidence about Benghazi: 0
Currently reading: Night Watch by Terry Pratchett


katatomic

Must Be Home...

Because I managed to get the kitchen unpacked and stocked up enough to cook dinner!

First dinner cooked and eaten in the House

Of course there weren't enough chairs so Mr, Kat knelt on the floor (his idea not mine), I slightly overcooked the garlic, and we didn't eat until 9 p.m., but hey, I hadn't even tried this dish (chicken piccata) in 6 or 7 years, much less managed to make it edible. It was actually tender enough to cut with a fork and tasted pretty good (a touch too much flour in the dredge I think...). Now the dishwasher--which is not named Mr. Kat for the first time in 20 years--is cleaning up and I am having a glass of wine.

W00t!

Also, our bed was delivered and set up today and Mr. Kat made it up with clean sheets I washed in my very own washer and dried in my very own dryer! Luxury! Now we just need to get the rest of the bookshelves put together, find a few more chairs, tables, and lamps and we're set! (well, we still have no beds for guests unless they will settle for air mattresses on the floor.)

Hokey Smoke! I'm a homeowner!

(Incidentally the dining room table is an old library table with a "butterfly" leaf that folds out of the middle. It's cute, but not very large.)

Now if I can just get a few more things done on the business front, I may be able to get back to work. Have to write two books before the end of the year, so I'd better get cracking!

calendula_witch

Hobbing and Such

I have finally found some time to work on Hobgoblin, yay! I’ve edited up through chapter 6. Of course, it’s not till chapter 8 or so where it starts to really need work, but this feels like good progress.

Also I got some more anthology stories edited and out; not quite halfway done with those.

Also-also I got some acquisitions-editing-reading done. (I still LOVE it that I can lie on the couch and read, and that’s work!)

You can tell from all of the above that it was too rainy to go play in the yard today… :-)

Originally published at Shannon Page. You can comment here or there.


marlowe1

Books Read in 2013 # 45 - Pirates!

45. Red Seas Under Red Skies by Scott Lynch - I have a disagreement with my friend over these books. He states that this book is infinitely better (and more focused) than Lies of Locke Lamora and that the pirate material is largely unnecessary. I'm not sure if I convinced him, but I think that both books are great (this one is a little better because it's scott_lynch's second and he is more certain of the material) but they both have a certain pattern - start out with an intricate robbery plot where Locke Lamora is presented as the most cocksure thief/con artist in a social order that is already corrupt, show several steps in the con including a scene where Locke seems to completely blow the con by revealing that he's working a con to the mark (which of course means that he's using misdirection) and suddenly HOLY FUCK THAT WASN'T SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN and suddenly a book that reads like an Oceans 11 imitation (nothing wrong with that) suddenly becomes a very tense book about a man who is barely trying to keep his head above water and has to catch up with everyone else who was playing him all along.

In Lies of Locke Lamora, the HOLY FUCK scene can either be the death of one major character (whom I am still pissed off about him killing) or the death of another major character by big fucking sharks. In Red Seas, it's the pirates. Suddenly this intricate plot about Locke Lamora and Jean conning a casino owner gets derailed by a town magistrate (more like the dictator appointed by the oligarchy) sending Locke and Jean off with fake pirates only to get them stuck with real pirates and Locke evaluating and re-evaluating his loyalties.

Even though this could have been a much shorter book without the pirates, it wouldn't have been as fun or as rich in the character development of Locke and Jean. The pirates are the comrades that Locke and Jean have been seeking since the disasters of the first book and the pirate captain with kids is one of the best additions to the canon.

Unfortunately this is one of those books that is better to come at with fresh eyes so I don't want to give too much away. There are pirates. There is a town dictator. If you read the description to the next book you pretty much knows how he gets his claws into Locke and Jean. There's an elaborate Oceans 11 con that a lesser writer would be content with making the entire plot. That's all I want to say. This book may not be perfect. There were some annoying fake-outs and anti-climatic moments. There's also a cliffhanger that gets resolved in the "oh, that's how that turns out? Ok," way. But yeah, this book is awesome. Just fucking buy it. Read it. Buy multiple copies. Give them to your friends. And the next one is out in October.

One last thing - if you read the first book and not this one, you will be happy to see the bondmages back. However, what I rather love about this book is the fact that Lynch doesn't destroy their mystique (they are still the scariest bastards in the world and Locke is still crazy for going against them) but he does ever-so-subtly hint that they aren't nearly as scary or as powerful as they would like the rest of the world to believe. Of course, in a book series about con games and images, it's pretty certain that nothing is what it seems, but the way the bondmages affect the story is very interesting. Which is another reason why I'm looking forward to the third book (I suppose Lynch won't have advanced reading copies when he goes to CONvergence and even if he did, he wouldn't have enough to give to me even though I would totally review and probably rave about the third book)

shaharazad

MECAF Tomorrow

Tomorrow, 5/19/2013, Dandelion Studios will have a table at the Maine Comics Arts Festival in Portland ME. This is one of our favorite shows of the year, and this year Jeff Smith of Bone is the headline guest.

Hope to see you there!

joycemocha

Miscon schedule

Yay! Got my final Miscon schedule, and it looks like Great Fun. Miscon’s a lovely con and I always enjoy my time there.

Joyce Reynolds-Ward

  • Fri 1:00 – 1:50 PM, Big Bang Theory!, Great Hall (Upstairs)
  • Break Fri 1:50 – Fri 4:00
  • Fri 4:00 – 4:50 PM, Writers’ Workshop Meet and Greet, Containment Room (Upstairs)
  • Break Fri 4:50 – Sat 11:00
  • Sat 11:00 – 12:50 PM, Writers’ Workshop Great Hall, Great Hall (Upstairs)
  • Break Sat 12:50 – Sat 2:00
  • Sat 2:00 – 2:50 PM, Reading: Joyce Reynolds Ward, Upstairs Programming 3 (261)
  • Break Sat 2:50 – Sat 5:00
  • Sat 5:00 – 5:50 PM, One Person’s Freedom Fighter . . ., Upstairs Programming 1 (259)
  • Break Sat 5:50 – Sun 10:00
  • Sun 10:00 – 10:50 AM, The Role of Religion in Science Fiction/Fantasy, The Cave (Downstairs)
  • Break Sun 10:50 – Sun 2:00
  • Sun 2:00 – 2:50 PM, Gender Roles and Societal Change, Upstairs Programming 2 (260)

Getting excited about it now, thinking about my reading. A snippet from How Beer Saved the World and a snippet from Netwalker Uprising…both of which hopefully will come up on the Stanza on my lovely new phone (Never fear, I plan to bring hard copy as well…)

Mirrored from Peak Amygdala.

This entry was originally posted at Peak Amygdala. You can post here or there.
Tags:

scalzifeed

A Mind Is a Terrible Thing to Taste

http://whatever.scalzi.com/2013/05/18/a-mind-is-a-terrible-thing-to-taste/

http://whatever.scalzi.com/?p=21883

Me and Jay Lake at the Nebula Mass Signing yesterday. I taste of executive power. For another few weeks, anyway.

Picture borrowed from jay’s site, here.



fixnwrtr

Who do you write like?

I haven't done a meme in a long time, but decided to take a spin this morning by putting in the first chapter of Among Men and seeing what came out. This is what I got.


I write like
Oscar Wilde

I Write Like by Mémoires, journal software. Analyze your writing!




That's flattering. So maybe it's time to check out something else, like the new anthology I just published, Heart Strings with a collection of my published true stories.

Snow Shadow comes up with James Fenimore Cooper of Leatherstocking fame.

The Remittance Man comes up with Cory Doctorow.

The last one I checked just now is Whitechapel Hearts and once again I come up with Oscar Wilde, which is appropriate since I am writing about the 19th century and capturing that style of writing.

I suppose I should check Among Women, and the winner is . . . .

Now that was a surprise since it came up with Raymond Chandler. I've not read Chandler before, but maybe I should.

All this technology makes things easier, but it can also make me feel a bit frustrated and sad because all the above writers sold enough books to not have to work a day job and here I am struggling along. I still wonder if it's more marketing than writing, which puts me out of the game since I am mediocre at marketing and cannot afford to hire someone to do the marketing. I do know that Among Women is currently being pirated in Russia and I have been told that people love it because it reads like Steinbeck and he's very popular in the Russias. If only I could translate the pirated popularity for being paid kind of popularity here, and we're right back at marketing.

So, for those few of you that read my LJ any more, I have a proposition for you. Go to Smashwords and use this code (YM96Q) for a free copy of Heart Strings. Download it in any form you prefer. Read it. Share it with your friends and family. Spread the word. If you like it, spread the word even more. Write a review if you have the time or inclination. The code is good until Monday, 05/20/2013, so be quick about it. Come back here or tag me on Facebook and tell me what you think. Many of the stories have been featured here and in various other places, so some may be stories you've read. Others will be new to you. All have been featured in some major anthologies, like Chicken Soup and Cup of Comfort, so some pretty good marketing pros and editors thought enough of the stories to buy them, but isn't it nice to have them all in one place?

That's my marketing ploy for the day. Check out the analyzer and find out which author your writing is more like, but remember, it's just a tool. While we are all influenced by the writers we have read (and evidently the ones we haven't read), we still write like ourselves. It's rather like life. We are the sum of our experiences, a composite of moments of every imaginable emotion that result in the uniqueness that is me -- and you -- and you -- and ... well, you get the idea. Go forth and write.

That is all. Disperse.

talvinamarich

Hmm. Yes.

http://www.takepart.com/photos/female-superheroeswho-wear-clothes

fixnwrtr

Heart Strings is Here

Heart Strings is Here | JM Cornwell | Blog Post | Red Room

jaylake

[conventions|photos] My day one of the Nebula Awards Weekend

Yesterday, Jersey Girl in Portland flew down to San Jose. We ran into Richard Lovett on the plane, and shared a cab to the convention hotel. Once there, the afternoon became a blur of old friends and new that I couldn't possibly do a sane job of listing. At the author signing, I was seated between John Scalzi and Joe Haldeman, with Connie Willis and Stephen Gould on the far end, safely out of range from me. Signing was busy and a lot of fun

IMG_3374
DNA transfer between myself and John Scalzi

After the signing, Jersey Girl and I went to dinner with C.E. Petit, Catherine Shaffer, and the Locus crew, led by the indomitable Liza Trombi, along with Francesca Myman, Tim Pratt and Heather Shaw.

IMG_3382
DNA transfer between myself and Francesca Myman of Locus while Catherine Shaffer looks on approvingly in the background

Post-dinner, we hit the reception at which the Nebula nominee certificates and pins are handed out, along with drinks and photography. It was fun to stand with Aliette de Bodard, Ken Liu and Lawrence Schoen. We were only missing Nancy Kress. And I am in awe of both Aliette and Ken for their across the board strength on the award ballots this year.

IMG_3391
(Most of) the Best Novella ballot lining up to be photographed for the later restraining order

Eventually I retired early for a crappy night's sleep.

Today my parents show up, as does my aunt and uncle, as does [info]the_child. My profound thanks to Crystal Black for making her trip possible. Plus a ton more friends.

Tomorrow, I am off to Rio Hondo at the crack of doom.




Photos © 2013 N. Schaadt. All rights reserved, reproduced with permission. As usual, more at the Flickr set.


jaylake

[photos] Your Saturday moment of zen

Your Saturday moment of zen.

IMG_2997.JPG

Test tank interior at Hanford Site, 2008. Photo © 2008, 2013, Joseph E. Lake, Jr.

Creative Commons License

This work by Joseph E. Lake, Jr. is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-Share Alike 3.0 United States License.

Tags: ,

jaylake

[links] Link salad parties with the pros in San Jose

"Into the Gardens of Sweet Night" by Jay Lake — A review of my 2003 Hugo-nominated novella.

Stone Age Cinema — This is cool.

Brain Stimulation Can Boost Math SkillsThe study was small-scale and is not something that should be replicated at home, because of the possibility of harm/ Ya think? (Via David Goldman.)

Farm Equipment That Runs on Oats

Huge Rock Crashes Into Moon, Sparks Giant Explosion

Climate research nearly unanimous on human causes, survey findsOf more than 4,000 academic papers published over 20 years, 97.1% agreed that climate change is anthropogenic. Reality's well-known liberal bias is not an inherent property of the physical universe. Rather, it's an emergent property of conservative privileging of ideological thinking over evidence-based thinking. Conservatives would serve themselves and the country as a whole a great deal better if they relied less on arguments from authority and more on arguments from reality.

Justifiable CauseThe Obama administration is making the case for conservatism better than Mitt Romney ever did. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

The Great Benghazi Conspiracy and Republican Forgeries — As I said on Twitter and Facebook yesterday, GOP makes up fake White House Benghazi emails, cons news with fakes, now can accuse White House of covering up when real emails are released. Classy. The worst part, it works. Keeps their white men angry over outright lies.

QotD?: Have you handicapped the Nebula ballot?




5/18/2013
Writing time yesterday: 1.0 hours (WRPA)
Hours slept: 4.25 hours (solid, but yikes!)
Body movement: n/a
Weight: n/a
Number of FEMA troops on my block covering up evidence about Benghazi: 0
Currently reading: Night Watch by Terry Pratchett


scalzifeed

RT Book Reviews Video Interview; IGMS Review of THD

http://whatever.scalzi.com/2013/05/18/rt-book-reviews-video-interview-igms-review-of-thd/

http://whatever.scalzi.com/?p=21880

Welcome to Saturday. 

First: Look! A video interview with me from RT Book Reviews, taken during the Booklover’s Convention a couple of weeks ago in Kansas City. I talk about The Human Division, the RT convention and some SFWA matters:

Second: Jamie Todd Rubin reviews The Human Division in Intergalactic Medicine Show, and has nice things to say about the book. For example:

The Human Division is not just John Scalzi at its best, it is science fiction at its best.

Yup, that’s a jacket blurb right there.

Third: Nebula Weekend fabulous so far. Wish you were here.



wyld_dandelyon

Monster and Muse Fusion

A couple of days ago, I was going to post one of my monster sketches from last weekend, but Live Journal wouldn't let me post. Hopefully that won't be a problem tonight, be cause Elizabeth wrote a poem about the creature in one of my sketches!

So, here is the current sketch of the Unicorn Jelly:
unicornjelly

And here is the link to the poem:  http://ysabetwordsmith.livejournal.com/2836864.html

Finally, we would welcome some new prompts, whether related to Sea Monsters or not.  Of course, you're welcome to come peek in on us as we create or even join us.  http://torn-world.livejournal.com/151363.html

marlowe1

Amazon Vine and Ebay let me down

Ebay has now changed its policy so that it holds the money for you when you sell something. Isn't that nice. Bad enough that paypal always sides with the bitchy customers and ebay stopped letting you warn sellers against customers through negative feedback (which is why I don't leave feedback as a seller). So that's pretty much it for ebay. I may repost all of my sales like once a month, but at this point it ain't worth it to sell on ebay. Especially since reposting the sales every week is just costing me more than what I make off of it.

Amazon Vine has decided to go ahead with that stupid 100% within 30 days rule. They did limit it to the books that they have given this year so that all the old books for review are no longer in need of reviews. I suppose that makes some sense since a book review three weeks after publication is automatically more valuable than a book review 3-4 years after publication (hell some of these books have gone out of print by then). But it's still bullshit since it means that in order to get more books you either have to now make sure to read the 4 books (or 5 or 6) that you get a month or just write fake reviews based on the other reviews and the editor reviews. In one fell swoop, Amazon has turned all of its happy customers into Leonard Pierce - faking reviews in order to just get more free stuff.

Granted, professional book reviewers (like Leonard Pierce once was) should be able to read a book within a week and churn out a review of it. Ok, PW demands 4 months in advance to make sure that there is someone with enough time to read and review your book, but that's PW. Other reviewers get them - what? - a month or two in advance. And they get a bunch.

On the other hand, professional book reviewers get paid for it. Granted, I could get on that freelance. That's the way that ethical freelance writers work.

So that's that. For years, I was buying stuff and then selling it on Ebay. Or getting it for free from Amazon Vine and selling it on Ebay. Now I will still sell on Ebay and still get stuff for free but it won't be the same. I will feel bad about writing bad reviews. I will not add new stuff on ebay unless I am absolutely certain that it will sell. Instead I will donate my books to the local Goodwill. I figure I need to give tzeddaka more anyhow.

ann1962

(no subject)

I'd like to thank the CW for having a Supernatural marathon today. I'm pleased that you kept my schedule in mind.

(Though the difference between hunky earlier seasons Sam, and current Sam is shocking to say the least. I hope he didn't do it for the role. I suspect he did it because he has a kid now, and it's hard to spend that kind of time being pretty when you want to spend it to be a good parent. I commend Jared for that.)

richgreen01

Parsantium Design Diary No.14: Viking Bodyguards, Platinum Knights & Master Brewers

This week I’ve been writing more about the important organisations and power groups in Parsantium. In my last diary, I talked about the Hidden Quarter gangs and the Cult of the Black Mother. Since then, my attention has turned to knightly orders and fighting brotherhoods, including the Axe-Bearing Guard and the Platinum Knights, as well as the less than honourable Crusading Brothers of the Sword who have turned to piracy to keep their coffers full.

The Axe-Bearing Guard are based on the historical Varangian Guard, mercenaries from Scandanavia who formed an elite bodyguard for the ruler of Byzantium. Unswerving in their loyalty to the Basileus, these Northerners fight with reckless ferocity, not seeming to notice their wounds in battle. These days, being in the Axe-Bearing Guard is pretty dull – mostly they guard doors in the Great Palace and escort the Basileus and the Royal Family to and from services at the Holy Basilica – prompting some of them to leave and become adventurers.

VarangianArtistsConception

The Platinum Knights are paladins of Themecia, goddess of justice, protection, nobility & honour, sworn to protect the god’s clerics and followers from harm and to mete out justice to evildoers. From their chapter house in Parsantium, the Celestial Bastion, the Knights support the Parsantine army in fighting back raiding humanoids. Some choose instead to become Platinum Knights-Errant. These knights are free to wander the lands, taking up honourable and chivalric quests to fight evil. All of the Knights follow a chivalric code:

The Code of Themicia

Protect the weak and the vulnerable

Live and die with honour

Fight for justice and welfare for all

Punish the evildoer

Respect and obey your superiors

Guard the honour of your brethren and sistren

Do battle bravely and fairly, eschewing trickery and deceit

Always speak the truth

Never leave a quest unfinished


I’ve also written a fair bit about Parsantium’s powerful guilds. These organisations are often at each other’s throats over goods and services where their spheres of influence overlap, leading to street fighting, arson and sabotage. Rival guilds sometimes call on the gangs of the Hidden Quarter to do their fighting for them, complicating the situation further. Other guilds are corrupt or have something to hide; some, like the Entertainers and the Vintners, just want to get on with making as much gold as possible. The idea with the guilds, as with the rest of the book, is to provide plenty of cool adventure hooks for DMs and players, as well as adding some verisimilitude.

Next up, I’m going to detail the noble families of Parsantium. Then, it’s on to the gods, the last chapter of the book. The current word count is 76,500 so my latest estimate on the final total is 81,000. 

endlessrarities

Just Dropping In...

I'm sorry,  I'm neglecting y'all I know.

I've got final edits for the novel to go through this weekend which means I'm going to be pretty much occupied on bookish things.

And then there's the plants.  The endless parade of plants...

I'm really going to have to take some photos before the petunias go outside and get slugged because in many respects, I've got some of the nicest petunias I've ever seen in my life.  Thomson and Morgan's 'Crazytunia' collections are just plain gorgeous, and there's another wonderful selection called 'Lake Garda' from Gardening Direct, too.  Not to mention a couple of petunia selections from J Parker which are equally striking.

So yeah, there will be photos taken, very soon.  The sun has at last come out here, and nature has gone into overdrive.  But I'll try and stay in touch - I promise!!

fixnwrtr

Review: Huntress Moon by Alexandra Sokoloff

Review: Huntress Moon by Alexandra Sokoloff | JM Cornwell | Blog Post | Red Room

calendula_witch

Bad Neighbor!

Oh my gosh you guys, I was so sleepy last night when I posted, I forgot to tell you about the horrible discovery I made about my next-door neighbor!!

Actually, let me backtrack, because what I learned also helped me solve a mystery that had been driving me nuts. Ever since the weather got a little better and I’ve been keeping windows open, I’ve been hearing this random, occasional “pok” sound. Like a very, very slow ping-pong game. I could NOT for the life of me figure out where it was coming from, though it was obviously nearby.

Though sometimes it sounded farther away, and sometimes it sounded really close. I actually almost peered into a fenced back yard down the block last week, because I thought I heard it coming from there, but when I walked by, there were people in the yard, and, well, I wasn’t going to peer through their fence when they were back there.

So the mystery continued. I started thinking I was going to have to move away, just to preserve my sanity. POK…. POK……….. POK.

POK.

But then yesterday I was out in the yard, puttering around as I do, and I saw my next-door neighbor in his yard. He had a bag of peanuts, and he was filling a couple of little container-device-things that he had nailed to trees.

And as soon as he filled one, a squirrel ran up, lifted the lid, got a peanut, and scampered off, leaving the top to fall back down with a little “pok”!

MY GOD, MY NEIGHBOR IS FEEDING THE LITTLE BASTARDS! (in fact, probably lots of neighbors are, which is why the sound gets closer and farther…)

And of course they leave the peanut shells all over my yard. AND BURY THEM IN MY POTS.

Because of course the little bastards aren’t satisfied with peanut-feasting all over the neighborhood: they still have to come into MY yard and dig up my pots and chew on my plants and kill seedlings and generally wreak mayhem.

I still may have to move. This neighborhood is not safe! Who would have thought my very NEXT DOOR NEIGHBOR had gone over to the dark side?

Oddly, now that I know what the POK sound is, it bothers me both less and more. At least I’m not crazed with wondering any more. And I suppose I could silver-lining it and tell myself that every POK I hear is a squirrel not at that moment in my yard, but I’m not quite that Zen yet. I just imagine them writing all their friends all over the country: “Hey, free peanuts in southeast Portland! Right next door to a bunch of juicy plants and freshly dug soil! Come on down!”

Little bastards.

Originally published at Shannon Page. You can comment here or there.

Tags: ,

scalzifeed

View From a Hotel Window: San Jose

http://whatever.scalzi.com/2013/05/17/view-from-a-hotel-window-san-jose/

http://whatever.scalzi.com/?p=21877

And to answer the age-old question, no, I don’t know the way to San Jose, on account that for the last two days I was driven around by other people and have no idea, navigationally, how I got here. Thank God for GPS.

Nevertheless I am here, in San Jose, and about to formally embark on my last ever Nebula Weekend as president of SFWA. It’ll be fun. Those of you who are in or near San Jose, remember that there is the mass signing today at 5:30, with me and dozens of your favorite science fiction and fantasy writers; here are the details. See you there!



jongibbs

Interesting blog posts about writing – w/e May 17th, 2013


Here’s my selection of interesting (and sometimes amusing) posts about writing from the last week:

Should You Self-Publish? 15 Questions (Orna Ross)

Outrageous French Copyright Grab (Victoria Strauss)

Be Yourself Online (Unless Yourself is a Jerkwad) (Jody Casella)

Layering Conflict (Diana Hurwitz)

Shifting Sands (Kristine Kathryn Rusch) JON’S Pick of the Week

Six Core Issues Facing Writers Today (Alan Rinzler)


3 Ways to Improve Your Website Design (Penny Sansevieri)

How To Pitch A Self-Published Novel to A Publisher - Part One (Dr. John Yeoman)

Rules and Tools (Dave King)

Everything Marketing (Jan Blazanin)

When It Doesn't Work... (Sydney Salter)




If you found these useful, you may also like my personal selection of the most interesting blog posts from 2012, and last week’s list.

If you have a particular favorite among these, please let the author know (and me too, if you have time).  Also, if you've a link to a great post that isn't here, feel free to share.

jimhines

Collect ALL the D-seases!!!

On Facebook last week, I mentioned that I seem to be collecting D-themed diseases. First diabetes, then depression. Now I have a third one to add to the mix.

During Penguicon, my wife noticed what looked like an elongated callus on my right hand, below the ring finger. (Spoiler: It’s not a tumor.) When it was still there two weeks later, I hopped online to do a little research, then went in to talk to the doctor. His diagnosis confirmed my guess, and the winner is…

Dupuytren’s Contracture

That link goes to the Wikipedia page, which includes a post-surgical picture with incision and stitches, so don’t click if that kind of stuff gets to you.

Basically, some connective tissue in my hand is misbehaving, which starts to restrict the extension of the tendon. Right now, it’s just a little vertical speed bump on my palm. Eventually, it will restrict the movement of my ring finger, and I won’t be able to extend it beyond a curved, clawlike position.

I think of this soon-to-be claw as the first step in my very, very slow transformation into a werewolf.

The good news is that it’s not painful, and it’s fairly straightforward to correct. Basically, the doctor said to let him know when it starts to become a problem, at which point he’ll hook me up with a hand surgeon to go in and clean out the affected tissue. Six weeks of recovery and physical therapy, and I’m good to go.

Note: I’m not looking for medical advice.

Dupuytren is less common in people my age. I guess I’m just precocious. There seems to be a correlation to diabetes as well. And it sounds like there’s a decent chance of recurrence in the long run.

Compared to some of the medical complications I’ve seen friends and family deal with, this is little more than an annoyance right now. I am a little anxious about the eventual surgery, though. I’m a writer, which is a much easier job for me to do with functional hands.

Fortunately, I should have a little while–maybe a few years?–before that becomes necessary.

The silver lining: It looks like the surgery leaves a zig-zag scar on your palm, which means after I heal, I’ll be able to tell people I stopped a Killing Curse WITH MY BARE HAND!

Mirrored from Jim C. Hines.


sfwa_admin wrote in
sfwa

Outrageous French Copyright Grab: ReLIRE Goes Live

Posted by Victoria Strauss for Writer Beware

Just over a year ago, I wrote about a new French law that, under the guise of dealing with the pressing issue of orphan works, implements a truly massive rights transfer.

The law empowers the Bibliothèque Nationale de France to create an online database of works published in France before 2001 that are currently out of print (this includes not just works by French writers, but foreign works translated into French). Once a work has been listed in the database for more than six months, the right to digitize it transfers to a collective management organization, which thereafter has near-unlimited power to exploit that right–including granting it to publishers without the author’s permission. The collective management organization will also be responsible for distributing (an unspecified portion of) the proceeds from such grants to rightsholders.

There’s a six-month waiting period between a book’s appearance in the database and the transfer of rights to the collective management organization. To be removed from the database, rightsholders–who are not currently being notified if their works are included–must opt out in writing before the six-month waiting period expires. If they miss that deadline, they lose control of the digital display and sale of their work, and can only demand removal by proving that that they are the sole holder of digital rights.

The database, known as ReLIRE, is now online,with an initial list of 60,000 books. According to a comprehensive post on the program by writer Gillian Spraggs, numerous problems have been noted, including data errors, inclusion of books published after the 2001 cutoff date, and inclusion of books still in print or already available in digital form. Also included are many translated works by foreign authors that are clearly not orphans.

Digital-hungry publishers are already taking advantage of the database. Spraggs writes,

It appears that 10,000 (one in six) of the books in the database have been opted in by the publishers. The ReLIRE website FAQ outlines what a publisher will get out of the arrangement:

‘You will have the possibility of having an exclusive publishing licence for 10 years, implicitly renewable, to exploit the book in digital form, without having to sign a contract with the author or the author’s successors in title for the digital rights.

Sofia [the collecting society] will contact the authors or the successors in title to pay them, in accordance with the terms set out in the publishing contracts’…

Two points that the FAQ discreetly avoids spelling out are:

1. The legislation specifically charges the collecting society with developing contractual relationships that will ensure the greatest possible availability of the works…This puts prospective publishers in a very strong negotiating position and more or less guarantees that the contracts agreed will be bargain-basement deals with very low royalty rates, regardless of the market value of the work.

2. Certain administration costs that in a normal publishing arrangement would be borne by the publisher will instead be borne by the collecting society, which will take them out of royalties (so all or part of them will be taken from the authors’ share of any income). These include the cost of contacting authors and estates.

For authors, Spraggs says, it is “a ripoff deal.”

Writers’ groups in the US are taking notice of this threat to copyright. The Science Fiction and Fantasy Writers of America  has sent the letter below (reproduced with permission) to members, a number of whom have already found their works included in ReLIRE.

Dear SFWA Members,

As many of you already know, the ReLire program currently underway in France has scanned many books it considers to be “orphan works” in order to make them available through a public database. This database has already been found to contain many titles that are clearly not orphan works or in the public domain, including a number by prominent SF and fantasy authors. A more detailed explanation of the program is available here.

As this is a program of the Bibliotheque Nationale Francaise (French National Library), the Board is currently discussing options for applying pressure to the French government to prevent further works by SFWA members from being scanned and made available through this program, and we invite any members who have connections with the United States Trade Representative or any relevant branch of the U.S. Government to contact us. For the moment, however, we are informing all members of the issue and making them aware of the process involved in finding out whether a work is included and how to request that it be removed from the database.

All parts of the ReLire website and database are available only in  French. The Society of Authors has produced translations of four key pages:

- The ReLire home page
- The Your Rights page
- The Search page
- The FAQ

Here is a direct link to the advanced search page. The search fields are Titre( Title), Auteur (Author), Editeur (Editor) and Date d’edition (Publication date). If you are aware of any works of yours that have ever been published in French, you are strongly advised to search under all of the first three fields, as the entries in the database have been found to have many typos. Please notify SFWA of any of your works that are found in the database, as that will be valuable information in our efforts to protest the program.

If you do find any novels, stories or any other works belonging to you in the database you may request to have them removed. Please note that at this time it appears as though you will need either a French identification card (only available to residents of France) or a valid passport to make the application. We are awaiting clarification on the question of whether any other forms of identification will be accepted.

Thanks to Aliette de Bodard, Lawrence Schimel, Michael Capobianco and Jim Fiscus for their help in researching and co-ordinating SFWA’s response.

If any of your works have been published in French, and you find them included in ReLIRE, see this step-by-step manual for applying to have the work removed. For many other helpful resources and links, as well as some of the writing/publishing community’s reaction to ReLIRE, see Gillian Spraggs’s blog post, French Copyright Grab: the Machine Creaks into Action.

Spraggs writes that a group of French authors are planning to challenge the new law on constitutional grounds. She concludes by urging all writers to protest ReLIRE:

Whether or not you find that any of the books on the list are by you, or contain works by you, make a complaint to your government about the ReLIRE project, and talk to any author societies to which you belong.

The Berne Convention says: ‘Authors of literary and artistic works protected by this Convention shall have the exclusive right of authorizing the reproduction of these works, in any manner or form.’ (9.1) This can only be overriden ‘in certain special cases’ and ‘provided that such reproduction does not conflict with a normal exploitation of the work and does not unreasonably prejudice the legitimate interests of the author’. (9.2) The Convention says of all the rights that are guaranteed under it: ‘The enjoyment and the exercise of these rights shall not be subject to any formality‘. (5.2)

By compelling foreign authors, in order to prevent their works’ being co-opted into collective management, to search for them on a database and request their removal, the French government has imposed an illegal formality on their exclusive exercise of the right of reproduction.

The ReLIRE scheme is in no sense a ‘special case’ within the meaning of Article 9.2. By intervening in such an outrageous manner in the fast-developing market for digital rights it interferes with the normal exploitation of the works and most unreasonably prejudices the legitimate interests of the authors.

Mirrored from SFWA | Comment at SFWA


jaylake

[writing|travel] Off to the Nebs, then Rio Hondo

Yesterday Lisa Costello departed for New Mexico, where she is attending a conference in Santa Fe. This morning, Jersey Girl in Portland and I skedaddle to San Jose for SFWA's Nebula Awards Weekend. My Dad and (step)Mom will be there tomorrow, as will my Aunt B— and Uncle L— from Texas. [info]the_child also flies down to San Jose tomorrow to attend the Nebula Awards banquet and ceremony with the able assistance of Crystal Black.

I'll do some socializing and maybe some business whilst in San Jose, then I'll have the fun of watching myself lose the Nebula. Let's put it this way: I don't even have an acceptance speech prepared. In the extremely unlikely event that I win, I'll wing it. Luckily for both me and my potential audience, I am ferociously good at winging it.

Crack of Sunday, I light out for New Mexico my own self. This trip is completely unrelated to Lisa's, as I am heading for Rio Hondo, but our automobile will pause whilst passing through Santa Fe on the way from Albuquerque to Taos for us to have a snack and visit with Lisa, who by amusing coincidence will still be there. After that, I'm for a week at Rio Hondo. (I'm not sure about the connectivity at Rio Hondo, so blogging may be erratic next week.)

All in all, a very good ten days or so coming up.


jaylake

[events] JayFest sponsored by Powell's Books

Mark your calendars! Powell's Books will be hosting JayFest, a group signing and book fair in support of, well, me.

DATE: Thursday, June 13, 2013 (two days before JayCon XIII)
TIME: Book fair 6:00-9:00 pm, group signing 7:00-8:00 pm
PLACE: Powell's Books at Cedar Hills Crossing in Beaverton, Oregon

Authors in attendance will include David D. Levine, Phyllis Irene Radford, Devon Monk, Barb and J. C. Hendee, Shannon Page, Mark Ferrari, J. A. Pitts, M. K. Hobson, Diana Pharaoh Francis, and Tina Connolly.

Ten percent of the proceeds for each book sold during the book fair will go to the Clayton Memorial Medical Fund, which helps professional science fiction, fantasy, horror, and mystery writers living in the Pacific Northwest states of Oregon, Washington, Idaho, and Alaska deal with the financial burden of medical expenses.

Please see http://www.powells.com/events/5348/ for more information and updates.


jaylake

[photos] Your Friday moment of zen

Your Friday moment of zen.

IMG_2991.JPG

Self-portrait at Hanford Site, 2008. Photo © 2008, 2013, Joseph E. Lake, Jr.

Creative Commons License

This work by Joseph E. Lake, Jr. is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-Share Alike 3.0 United States License.

Tags: ,

jaylake

[links] Link salad wonders how it can dance when our earth is turning

JayFest — Sci-Fi Book Fair & Group Signing — My friends at Powell's are hosting a group signing in support of my cancer journey, book sales to benefit the Clayton Memorial Medical Fund. The evening of June 13, 2013, two days before JayCon, at Powell's Cedar Hills in Beaverton, OR.

Almost All the Way Home From the Stars: Seven Science Fiction Stories — An ebook of my collaborate work with Ruth Nestvold is now available. Includes the story we had in SCI FICTION together.

Vintage Book Jacket Art — (Snurched from Steve Buchheit.)

Two uncomfortable truths: New Merida looks a little whorey. Fewer people care about this than you would think.

Brain Training Helps Clear Cognitive Fog Caused by ChemotherapyThe mental fuzziness induced by cancer treatment could be eased by cognitive exercises performed online, say researchers. I play sudoku online rather obsessively when I am in chemo, as a form of cognitive self-check.

Ranbaxy: Looking Under the Rock — Why generic drugs do not always stack up. (Via David Goldman.)

EyeballA throwable building-mapping sphere from Bounce Imaging was recently chosen by PopSci for a 2013 Invention Award. The "throwable, expendable, baseball-size probe," in PopSci's words, "has a shock-absorbing shell embedded with six cameras, plus clusters of near-infrared LEDs to light up dark rooms (for the cameras)." Wow.

Opportunity Breaks NASA's 40-Year Roving Record

Danish Teenager Makes Rare Viking Find — Cool!

Thrilling video of Portland PD high-speed chase… wait for it… — Ah, Portland.

Survey of 12,000 studies finds strong agreement on climate changeWe already knew 97% of climate scientists backed the scientific consensus. It's amazing the lengths liberals will go to in order to spread their climate change lies, even to the extent of using reality-based "facts" and "data".

GOP raffling AR-15 “Sandy Hook”-type rifles as macabre pro-gun stunt — Stay classy, conservative America. It's what you do best.

CBS: It was congressional GOP who faked Benghazi email — Conservatives can almost never win on the facts, so of course they lie. That's the entire idea behind FOX News. And the Bush administration. (WMDs in Iraq, anyone? Anyone? Bueller?) Why should it be any different in the GOP congressional delegation? Water is wet, too.

QotD?: How do we sleep while our beds are burning?




5/17/2013
Writing time yesterday: 1.0 hours (0.5 revisions on my novella for METAtropolis: Green Space, plus WRPA)
Hours slept: 6.25 hours (solid)
Body movement: 0.5 hours (stationary bike)
Weight: 249.2
Number of FEMA troops on my block covering up evidence about Benghazi: 0
Currently reading: Night Watch by Terry Pratchett


marlowe1

Stupid Apologetics for Gender Separation

On my newsfeed was a rather long essay/rant by someone who is using Clara Oswald as their avatar. And with Clara as your avatar, you are totally in the clear because who would hold anything against Clara? Besides people who remember her first two appearances and marvel at how little she has developed as a character since then. But the rant begins thus -
I grew up with boys and girls mixed together in school and in the synagogue and in the Jewish youth groups we all attended. But my children are all growing up in a community which keeps boys and girls separate until they are ready to date for marriage. Personally, I think my children have an emotionally healthier situation. Do you know how many boys I hurt when I was a teenaged girl? Do you know how many of my teenaged friends were hurt by boys? And the reason was that we were too young and uncommitted to do those relationships well. I’m pleased that my children will have time to mature and to grow and to learn how to be a proper, giving partner before they enter into the arena of male-female relationships. They’re less likely to get hurt, and they’re less likely to hurt a partner that way.
If you want to read the rest of it, go here - https://www.facebook.com/groups/141577886025229/permalink/150821671767517/ It's an open group so it should be public to everyone.

Years ago when I was stumbling around Dassie and thinking that I was in love (if only I had gotten over her before I dedicated one of the Dybbuk Press books to her) I was in a perpetual state of confusion. While a lot of it was my fault - neediness, the inability and the lack of motivation of doing the work of dating, focusing solely on one person, belief in fate and all that crap, having been out of the dating pool for a long time due to the converting - there was quite a bit of it on her side. Some of it were qualities that I believed she had that I quite liked - a morbid sense of humor, an ability to say anything inappropriate, amusement at my social gaffes to the point where I felt like I wasn't so much of an oddity in the Frum community (which does value conformity). But there was another side to it and that was the way that she would flirt with me, act like she really wanted me around and then pull back and act like I was the last person in the world she wanted to see. It would go back and forth like that. I would see her at one point and she would brighten up and we would just talk for a long time and it was fun. ANd then the very next time I would see her there would be this undercurrent of "what the fuck do you want?"

And I hate to say it but the "what the fuck do you want?" moments were just as attractive as the flirting. I had a great friend that I should have been dating who was emotionally supportive and wonderful and just a little judgmental at times, but I just took her for granted when I chased after an openly manipulative woman.

Part of the confusion here (besides my own denial of personal self-loathing) was the fact that when I met Dassie she was 23. A grown woman by most accounts and she was playing these high school games. I knew that they were high school games but I didn't believe that a grown woman would play them. The cognitive dissonance of knowing that I am dealing with someone who alternate flirts with me and acts like I'm the person she least wants to see (more the latter when she was dating someone) who is NOT a 16 year old but a grown woman was headache inducing.

It took my friend Eli to point out that a lot of the frum girls in my neighborhood are playing these bullshit high school games because they never got a chance to play them in high school. Rather than "waiting until they are mature enough to handle dealing with the opposite gender" they carry these immature games with them because they are stunted in their growth. The whole "less likely to get hurt" trope - it's just as much bullshit when it comes to dating as it is when it comes to being raised in a place without consequences or pain.

This also explains why Chasidic guys in their early 20s act like douchey teenage boys - even when they've been married - ESPECIALLY when they've been married. I used to believe this crap about how separating the genders spares people the pain of male-female (heteronormative) relationship problems, but it doesn't do a damn thing. It only DELAYS these issues. So you get a Chasidic guy in his mid-20s blithely calling his ex-wife a cunt and acting like he's the cutest thing in the world. You get creepy dudes like Moshe H., my former roommate, bitching about how I "cock blocked" him for talking to a woman that he's creepily trying to hit on and you get Chabad guys who won't even pay the fucking strippers at their bachelor party because they didn't do the proper lesbian show.

A dopy little twit calling herself "Shaindy Frumgirl" can go on about how BEAUTIFUL and wonderful it is to make their kids separate by gender and never have the headaches of adolescence because she didn't grow up with that crap so she thinks that HER high school experience was the worst thing ever and somehow if ONLY she had waited to interact with boys everything would have been different. She's completely unaware of the fact that you don't become a person who is capable of having mature and stable relationships with the opposite gender (affection, friendship, etc.) by just waiting around in your cloister (or yeshiva or seminary), you do it by fucking up. All she's doing to her kids is forcing them to make stupid assumptions about dating and marriage without testing those assumptions. And so they become "nice guys" and "friendzone makers" and manipulators when they should be mature and decent human beings. If you don't fuck up and spend at least a little time as a nice guy or a manipulating jerk (or often BOTH at once) then you are NEVER going to learn how to not be that kind of creep.

All the rebbetzin lectures on dating in the world aren't going to make up for the experience.

xhebepiv

Adorable shoe

The photo opens in a new window by clicking it.

If you like my photos and you wish to give present for me, you can present LJ Tokens to me from this page.




1.




Share the link to this message:








Tags:

calendula_witch

Drippy Day

What do May showers bring?

Muddy yardwork, at least. But it makes the weed-pulling easier. :-) I miss that hot weather we had! Though I can’t argue with getting the garden watered for free.

I have about a billion strawberries that are allllllllmost ripe. Just a day or two of sun should do it.

Sun? Hello, sun? Any time now! I want to take my socks back off!

Originally published at Shannon Page. You can comment here or there.


xhebepiv

Trinity Cathedral, Saint-Petersburg, winter 2013

Photos open in a new window by clicking them.

If you like my photos and you wish to give present for me, you can present LJ Tokens to me from this page.



Share the link to this message:









You are viewing jennifer_brozek