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Post Con Letter

This is an email I set to someone who contacted me after GenCon about writing for me. This is a person I barely know and only know from GenCon. The interaction happened in a Writer Symposium room just between panels. I was up at the front, preparing for the next panel. There were about 50 attendees in the room.

This is not a letter I should have had to write and, honestly, I'm still pissed about it. But, I did write it and I hope that this writer gets the message on how to act towards people in the industry.

Hello [Censored],

I am feeling better. However, I feel I need to say a couple of things to you.

You did not interact with me in a professional manner and that bothers me. Whether or not the convention is a fun hobby for you, it is part of my job. Not accepting me telling you stop kissing my hand is completely unprofessional and out of line. More than one person noticed and more than one person commented to me about it later.

Also, on a completely personal level, I am angry that you completely disregarded my answer of why you should stop kissing my hand of "Because I'm married." with a flippant "So?" This disrespect for me, my husband and my marriage makes me furious. It should not happen. The response to "Because I'm married." is not "So?" it is to nod, step back and offer an apology.

I know you did not mean anything by your actions but they were inappropriate, especially in that setting. Should we meet again, I expect you to accord me the same respect you would any other business peer.

Thank you,
Jennifer

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ivan23
Aug. 19th, 2009 03:47 pm (UTC)
Ooof. That's really unfortunate - hope it all shakes out OK in the end.
jesshartley
Aug. 19th, 2009 03:49 pm (UTC)
Wow.
Yeah, that's a clear not-okay situation.
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xjenavivex
Aug. 19th, 2009 04:01 pm (UTC)
So did he kiss Jay Lake's hand next?

Not a cool guy at all.
zenethian
Aug. 19th, 2009 04:01 pm (UTC)
I would expect at least a very friendly-flirtatious hand kiss at something like a renaissance festival where people were having fun in character, but not at a convention where you're trying to have a professional relationship with someone, and certainly not to the point where you told them to stop and they didn't. That's absurd, and you're much kinder than I would have been about it. I hope that the issue is resolved, or at the very least, that you don't have to deal with this guy again.
cuddlycthulhu
Aug. 19th, 2009 04:03 pm (UTC)
*blink*

Ah, conventions where too many people make the assumption that physical boundaries are lowered and polyamory is rampant.
tenzil
Aug. 19th, 2009 04:18 pm (UTC)
Well who knows if that was what they were really thinking. Male gamers who have no idea what behavior is appropriate are rampant.
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saraphina_marie
Aug. 19th, 2009 04:14 pm (UTC)
Wow.
So to carry on in such a manner and then to ask to write for you. Priceless.
He definitely made a memorable impression, just not the kind he should have.
kyburg
Aug. 19th, 2009 04:17 pm (UTC)
Um. Hope we get into geographic proximity and I can get us both rather large beers and I can tell you what happened with Jay Schwartz that sent me retiring from both the convention chair for Leap Con and ever having a thing to do with him again.

Why yes, it DID have something to do with both us being married - to OTHER PEOPLE - at the time. Funny, that.
rm
Aug. 19th, 2009 04:18 pm (UTC)
I wish I could be surprised. I really, really do. *sigh*
eyezofwolf
Aug. 19th, 2009 04:18 pm (UTC)
Obviously that person has not learned that not all reputations are good ones to make... There are reasons why you do NOT want to be remembered.
mariadkins
Aug. 19th, 2009 04:19 pm (UTC)
:sigh:
markdeniz
Aug. 19th, 2009 05:16 pm (UTC)
And that icon is the business!
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filamena
Aug. 19th, 2009 04:20 pm (UTC)
You should have removed your hand and slapped him with it. He crossed the line, you'd just be reintroducing him to it.
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markdeniz
Aug. 19th, 2009 05:16 pm (UTC)
That's really rather silly and I think your response is warranted. I also think it's good because he might just learn from it.
stormgreywarden
Aug. 20th, 2009 01:56 pm (UTC)
Seconded!
mabfan
Aug. 19th, 2009 05:33 pm (UTC)
Wow. How incredibly unprofessional.
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